WHAT EVERY MAN WANTS IN A WIFE

………..pretty, God- fearing, good taste, classy, a good cook, playful, sexy, and so on and so forth. Every man reading this will agree with me that the list is almost endless. And if you are a lady…… come on, don’t tell me you never knew that guys carry in their minds what they call ‘shopping list’. You are not the only one who is allowed to scream out loud what you expect from your man, they’ve also got a lot of stuff that they expect from you. I will talk about what roles you have to play in WHAT EVERY WOMAN WANTS IN A MAN.

Sometimes I try to GO into the minds of men and i assume what could be going on there.  An average eligible bachelor has his list of prerequisite spelt out but whether he is waiting to find all those prerequisite in one woman…….., I can t say.

He found a very beautiful lady in January; she has all the essential curves, taste, beauty, education and spirituality. He actually thought she must be the woman for him, but somewhere down the line,
he changed his mind. He found out that though beautiful, she isn’t homely, though well educate, she isn’t playful neither was she enterprising. To make matters worse, she isn’t a good cook and just a little bit disrespectful. 

In April, he found another girl who is homely but dirty, confident but not so beautiful, playful but rough, enterprising but a spender, a very good cook but totally disinclined about spiritual things (almost a distraction to his ministry and spiritual life), focused but argues a lot, she communicates well but she is too clingy, she is supportive but a little bit controlling, and so he bailed out again; second time in one year.

He turns around to find a lot of his counterparts getting married. He said to himself……. ‘These guys are not as financially capable for marriage as I am, so what’s the difference between us?’

The guys who got married could see into the future, they could see what transformation will take place in a woman’s life and her character as she experiences true and unconditional love.

Paul, in his letter to the Ephesians instructed husbands to love their wives just as Christ loves the Church. As a ‘would – be’ Husband, you ought to take your clues from Christ’s demonstration of love in order to succeed in any relationship you venture into.

How did Christ love the church? He gave himself for it. Her sanctification, her cleansing, her glory were on his mind. The only way He was going to make her spotless and without wrinkle was to love her so much to the point of death. Ephesians 5: 25:27. Did she deserve such love? No!

Humanity tried and tried to get to God through religion and obeisance to the laws of Moses. Before God, our own works of righteousness could not make it happen. Until the day we found His amazing grace we kept struggling to do what we thought was right and acceptable, hoping that was what would guarantee our acceptance.

That amazing grace was truly a sweet sound. We then realized that God loved us just the way we were and gave out His best (Jesus Christ) to be sacrificed (Christ died for us while we were still sinners. This demonstrates God’s love for us. Rom 5:8)  (He who did not spare even his own Son, but gave him up on behalf of us all — is it possible that, having given us his Son, he would not give us everything else too? Rom 8:32). Since we expressed faith in the finished work of the cross, we do not have to struggle anymore to gain His acceptance. His righteousness has been inputted in us now and with the help of the Holy Spirit we live everyday of our lives pleasing him. Now we are better people, possessors of God’s divine nature, Christ’s Ambassadors here on earth, we are and citizens of heaven.

My dear ‘would – be’ husbands, God expects you to do the same and even much more with the women in your lives. You may not pull through when you want them to have this quality and that quality  before you walk them down the aisle. Someone loved them well enough to die for them and He actually did, you ought to be an example of such in their lives.

This is a very critical point in every man’s life. Don t leave a lady because she didn’t have this and that quality. If you discover that you have peace with being around her, pray and then take a peep into the future but above all, your duty is to love, love and love more.  You are the example of God’s love in her life.

So can I encourage you today? Replace the heading on your list with this: WHAT MY WOMAN WILL BECOME AFTER I HAVE LOVED, AS I LOVE AND I KEEP LOVING.

God bless you guys.

WHAT EVERY WOMAN WANTS IN A HUSBAND ;........................
 coming soon......watch out!!!