WHAT EVERY WOMAN WANTS IN A MAN

This is one write up that you might also want to title – ‘husband material’.

Frankly speaking …….. Who/What is a ‘husband material? In my own opinion, this is a concept that is extremely relative. Yes, the ‘husband material’ is a guy but let’s say an ‘imaginary guy’. A magic guy who exists in a lady’s mind/head the person she has framed up as the Mr. Right. She doesn’t know his name but she can tell his height, complexion and his looks

(Tall, Dark and Handsome). He does not have a name yet but she can tell his field of career, some ladies can even tell his state of origin.

He must be a God- fearing man; he must have a car; live in an apartment with nothing less than 2 rooms and that in the heart of the city not the suburb; with a plasma screen Television in the sitting room. He must earn 6 digits per month and must be able to recharge her phone well on a weekly basis while dating. I can go on and on, the list is endless.

Many ladies are being approached on a daily basis to come get into a godly relationship but  quite a number of them miss out on their day of visitation because of the magic man. The magic man can keep a lady from recognizing a world of opportunities that are right in front of her.

For being a Christian, certain things are basic. If you know that a man can demonstrate to you God’s kind of faithfulness and he persistently shows intense interest in you, if you can see through his personality an attitude that ‘leaves to cleave’ , he just might be worthy of your time.

Other ladies would rather prefer to focus on what he has/does not have. They forget that given time and encouragement, everyman (with potential) can become great (no condition is permanent). 

If he can love and provide (accompanied with the willingness to sacrifice), all the other things will fall in place but first… the love.

But then, majority of guys come, ready to really love but they carry other baggage too – the baggage do not look nice at all (poor appearance, stinginess, childishness, authoritative, aggressive, careless, indifferent, et. c). It is up to the lady, if that baggage will drop or not. How do I mean? Let the guy see reasons (through your attitude) to drop those funny baggage. 

This is where the point is. Have you developed yourself? Have you worked on your mannerisms and comportment? No guy is going to just ‘accept you the way you are.’ Have you demonstrated that you are truly single? That you can be alone and not be lonely? That you are independent and stable? That you are not a bug or a pest?  Are you working on improving your Godly virtues? Can we call you the Proverbs 31 woman? Can we say that you have progressed into that woman described in 1 Peter 3:1-6? Have you become submissive enough to live with a man? Can your attitude/behavior win an unbelieving husband over?

Ladies, it’s high time you came down from those ‘hills’ and roll up your sleeves. There is a lot of work to do, am sure you wish someone told you earlier but you are never too late. Start to develop your attitudes, read a little bit more, improve on your skills, by so doing, you would command all the love and respect that you deserve without even saying a word, any guy who wants to approach you also might want to fine-tune himself because there seem to be a fragrance that comes from you. It is the fragrance of a meek and quiet spirit not the BLV perfume that you wear. 

It is not so much about what you want in a man, it is about what you have to offer- what you can bring to the table. …….’be courteous’ the Bible says (1 Peter 3:8). Remember, you just cannot tell who is watching.

Let go of that imaginary magic man today because…..really….. He doesn’t t exist. Every human being is a work in progress-including you.Strive to be the best and see what bundle of joy will come your way

-tosin Babalola